Back In The Game Of Love...

Back In The Game Of Love

Being single can be fun, but it cannot be compared to having someone to share your life with. Just in case you are recovering from a breakup, there are ways to know when it’s time to love again. Blessing Ukemena writes, with report from Madam Noire

When a bitter breakup has brought you to your emotional knees, it’s hard to imagine that you’ll ever love again. But like the saying goes, time heals all wounds, and if you open up your heart again, it’s possible true love can find you. It’s not right to  jump back into dating before your tears have dried and your hurt has healed; it’s actually wise to take some time to reflect and reconnect with yourself after a breakup.

But once you’ve let some time go by, you may start to wonder if you’re up for the challenge of dating again. Not sure if you’re ready yet? Here are some signs that you may be ready to give love another try, because life MUST go on:

1. You’re Done Crying
After a bad breakup, crying yourself to sleep at night for days on end seems like the only way to get all the pain out. But if you suddenly wake up one morning to a dry pillow, it could be because you’ve finally gotten to a place where the thought of your ex doesn’t make you well up anymore.

After all, you don’t want to freak out the new guy by bursting into tears at the sheer mention of your ex’s name, do you? When you realize that your ex is not worth another tear, you’re on the path to healing. When you’re not over someone, you tend to want to keep him and the relationship alive by mentioning his name every chance you get – even when the conversation doesn’t warrant it. 

But suddenly, you realize you went the entire day without so much as even thinking about him, let alone saying his name. Once you’ve reached that point, then you know you are ready to find new love.

2. Your Confidence Is Restored
Breakups can leave you feeling vulnerable and unsure of yourself, especially if you were the one who was dumped. You wonder what you did wrong, why you weren’t good enough and why he stopped loving you.

But once you realize that this is life and these things happen, you no longer care what he thinks of you. When your self-esteem bounces back and you start feeling good about yourself again, watch out, because the new suitors can smell confidence a mile away…and confidence is hot!

3. You’re Interested In Other Guys
One sure way to tell you’re over your ex and are ready to start dating again is that other guys start looking good to you again. From your breakup until now, all men were jerks, they were all ugly from the inside out and you couldn’t even BEGIN to think about dating another man.

But now, your cutie radar is on high alert, and that brother you see on the train checking you out everyday suddenly looks like Prince Charming. Could this be the same man? Yes he is…you just weren’t ready to see it yet. But now that you’re over your ex, the number of fine looking men you encounter everyday makes you feel like a kid in a candy store!

4. You Believe In Love Again
When your heart has been broken, love seems that much more elusive and you begin to wonder if you’ll ever find “the one.” It happens and it’s natural to be cynical when it comes to love and the thought of happily ever after. You try your best to avoid chick flicks and you turn your nose up at every seemingly happy couple you see holding hands and kissing in the park.

Then, it hits you: a spark of hope and public displays of affection don’t annoy or sicken you anymore – they actually warm your heart and you start to believe that there actually is a Prince Charming out there waiting to find you. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you take an idealist approach to dating and look at every new guy as a potential soulmate. It simply means that you’re open to the possibilities again…and that’s all you need for now to feel like yourself again.

5. You Trust Men Again
If you felt betrayed or jilted in your past relationship, you may harbour some serious anger towards your ex that makes it impossible for you to even think about trusting another man any time soon. The way you see it, all men are dogs, and dating again will only lead to heartbreak – so, you avoid it. It’s natural to be cautious and want to protect yourself from pain.

But you’ll also keep yourself from experiencing the love that was designed for you because you are afraid of getting hurt again. True love and true success require taking a risk. So, forgive your ex for hurting you, so that you can move on with your life and get to the happy place that was meant for you.

Once you can look at a man without making him pay for your ex’s mistakes, you could possibly open yourself up to true love, because you won’t be blocking your blessings.